Is it a memoir? A self-help book? A story of woe? A tale of triumph? William Shatner’s latest memoir, Live Long and… What I Learned Along the Way is all of these, and more.
Advice that’s not advice … or is it?
“I, literally and proverbially, have been to the mountaintop,” says Star Trek‘s original Captain Kirk on page one, and dammit Jim, he’s right. Throughout the book, he reminds us that he has lived one hell of a life, from the highest highs (both figuratively and literally) to the lowest of the lows, and what wisdom he’s gained from his experience is not, he points, out, necessarily the right wisdom for the reader:
When people come to me and ask for advice, assuming I must have learned something really important in my lifetime, I respond with the best possible advice: Don’t follow my advice. Each one of us is unique. Different. Not the same. You didn’t have my mother. No one else can walk in my shoes; most people can’t even fit into them. I can’t wear your shoes; they make my bunions pinch.
Despite the disclaimer, he actually does have some advice that’s worth heeding, along with a whole lot of stories to explain how he’s learned what he knows so far. And “so far” is the operating assumption here, because he clearly plans to keep going, growing, and learning whatever life has to offer him. At 87—86 when he wrote the book—he knows himself pretty well, and tries to explain what motivates him.
Sad stories, personal philosophies, and passion
The book is funny in places, heartbreaking in others. The reader gets a glimpse into the loneliness Shatner clearly feels—this is the man criticized by his former Star Trek co-stars and made bereft by the death of best friend Leonard Nimoy, who wasn’t speaking to him at the time of his death. Shatner still doesn’t know why, he says, and considers it one of the great sadnesses of his life.
He reveals other moments of loneliness in his life, like when he was a kid in Montreal—his Valentine’s Day story will break your heart no matter who you are—and at the points in his career when that call every actor is waiting for just didn’t come.
My career and my plans have always been dependent on the next phone call. And I never knew when—or even if—the phone was going to ring. We are under the illusion that we choose our path, but we don’t. The road isn’t even paved. The road is being tarred as we go along.
This isn’t his only philosophy, of course.
I suspect we all like to think we are in more ways the same person throughout our lifetimes. Well, I am here to tell you we are not. Anyone who claims to have the same principles at my age as they had in their twenties simply hasn’t learned anything from their experiences.
And as for what he has learned, this will surprise no one who has followed his career:
I have great news for you: I can report to you from eighty-six years old that no matter how passionate you are, you will never run out of it. There is no limited reservoir of passion. To this day, to this moment, I am still in the thrall of physical and emotional passion. You don’t have to hold any of it in reserve until the right person or Thai restaurant comes along. No matter how much passion you display, there’s a lot more where that came from—but only if you learn how to accept it and enjoy it.
Life, death, and lessons learned
There are definitely some significant moments in his life captured here; the book even opens with Shatner being told by his doctor that he has an aggressive form of prostate cancer. He writes about some deeply personal moments with his family, like his granddaughter asking why he wouldn’t go see his first wife in the hospital when she was suffering from dementia, and his description of the intensity of his emotions at his father’s funeral make him less of the persona we’ve come to accept as William Shatner and more of a relatable human being with the same strengths and weaknesses as any of us.
But if you’re looking for a straightforward account of Shatner’s life, look elsewhere: in his other memoirs, or on Wikipedia. But if you want to know what’s in the man’s mind, he absolutely answers the age-old question “What was he thinking?” when it comes to some key moments in his existence. His difficult relationship with his mother that has never lost its grip, his enthusiasm and energy for vehicles and his deep connection to animals, his lost friendship with kind prostitutes, his anger towards his first wife, his confusion about what happened with Nimoy, who he’d felt was a brother to him — he examines them all, and tries to explain what has driven him, what he’s struggled with, and what he’s learned about himself.
It’s not that I don’t trust happiness; it just has always been so difficult for me to find. I am as happy as any human being for short periods of time. revel in good company and great food, in stimulation of many kinds, but then I need more. It revitalizes me, renews me, keeps me going.
And his thoughts on how he’ll end his life are both revealing and amusing.
Other people may accept death peacefully; not me, when I go I’m going kicking and screaming. I’m holding on to the furniture.
What this memoir explores best is the WHY of William Shatner, and he takes you on a hell of a ride as you go. Even those who have read all of his other books will enjoy this quick read. you’ll find yourself laughing out loud at some parts, and shedding a tear, at least in spirit, at others. It’s an intimate look at a guarded person, and although he doesn’t push himself that much, he still lets us in.
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